Mindful Communication Challenge, Part 5: Am I Willing?

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In this final part of the Mindful Communication Challenge we look within at our own willingness to do things differently. We have examined healthier listening, and running what we communicate through the three filters of Is It True? Is It Kind and Is It Useful? But are we really willing to do things differently? What excuses come up for us when we are confronted with living and communicating differently?

 

Mindful Communication Challenge, Part 4: Is It Useful?

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We have been working on improving our communication over the last three weeks focussing on listening, and asking whether what we are saying is true and whether it is kind? This week we add a third gate that we will try to have our words pass through: Is it useful? Is what I am about to say going to be of use, add to the situation or conversation, and be beneficial?

It is easy to not give much thought to what we say – letting our words go from our mouths without considering how they may impact those listening. Our words have the ability to hurt or heal. What do you want yours to do?

We will talk more about this on Sunday beginning at 10:30 a.m. See you then!

Mindful Communication Challenge, Part 3: Is It Kind?

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Everything that needs to be communicated to another person can always be done kindly, no matter how difficult the subject matter. In part 2 of this series we looked at how to determine if what we are about to say is true, really true–not just our biased view of what is true. Once we can get clear on that then we have to let it pass through the gate of kindness. How can I communicate this in a kind way? What is a loving way to express this?

We invite you to look deeper into this with us Sunday at 10:30 a.m.

Mindful Communication Challenge, Part 2: Is It True?

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Healthy communication can be challenging. One of the things that will help us to communicate well is if we look within ourselves to see if what we are planning to say is true. We need to get clear on what our own biases may be, what hurts or experiences may be influencing how we view things, and honestly offer our best understanding at the moment. This may require that we say things more often in a tentative manner rather than in a definitive way. Our sentences might start with words like, “It seems to me…” or “I am thinking about it this way…” or “I am not sure but this is how it appears to me…”

Is it true? Let’s find out. See you Sunday at 10:30 a.m.